I was at my grandaunt's wake this evening. I usually don't attend those uncontacted extended family member's events like this. Usually attending wakes are for the living people, to be with them and console. Not this time. I don't know 90% of the people though most of us share the same surname. Honestly, if I were to ever bump into them on the streets I really wouldn't even know it's them. I attended for the dead. For when I was young, she treated me nice and well. For the last time I am paying my respect to this elder.
It was a small room at Singapore Casket. She has many children, grandchildren and great-grand children. I sat there observing and felt very blessed. I have many cousins, uncles and aunties on both paternal and maternal side. Sometime ago I shared about a cousins gathering and it's moments like this that reminds me I have a close knitted extended family. Seriously, what I saw was like as though they only meet once or twice a year kind.
I am truly grateful to be able to experience good family love.
Sunday, July 26, 2009
Friday, July 17, 2009
Leadership
It wasn't meant to be a discussion about this topic at all. I walked in to the office only to want to discuss about work. And then for just 5 mins of mention, this topic really bit me off till now.
I am certainly not a perfect person and surely not a perfect leader as well. That 5 mins on this topic made me felt that I was being judged. Maybe my body language and bluntness gives others some the perspectives they see. Still, I don't believe that I need to garner respect from a psychotic and one who always thinks he/she is right. I need to go extra extra miles to do that. Is that necessary? How many leaders would really do that anyway? I am only human, one with imperfections. If only then I am a successful leader, then I don't think any leaders in this world fits this bill at all. Alright, I am not giving myself excuses and there is no wrong or right here. But that only sounds like an ideal situations.
And then it brought a thought to me that I will be so fake and to be able to work with these people and pretending to be nice. Is this leadership then? Yes, but not the style I want to use. I don't think I have ever put on any aires on my support staffs. In the first place, I didn't even choose to create enemity with them. I truly respect them for the hardwork and effort they put in, even when they don't, have I ever made their lives difficult?
I agree that a good leader must learn to be humble and carry out servantship at times but certainly not to the situation where I must bow to listen to them and do what they want. I am not one who likes to pull rank. I can but I also know the detriment of doing so. Please open your eyes and ears to see and hear the real thing.
I am certainly not a perfect person and surely not a perfect leader as well. That 5 mins on this topic made me felt that I was being judged. Maybe my body language and bluntness gives others some the perspectives they see. Still, I don't believe that I need to garner respect from a psychotic and one who always thinks he/she is right. I need to go extra extra miles to do that. Is that necessary? How many leaders would really do that anyway? I am only human, one with imperfections. If only then I am a successful leader, then I don't think any leaders in this world fits this bill at all. Alright, I am not giving myself excuses and there is no wrong or right here. But that only sounds like an ideal situations.
And then it brought a thought to me that I will be so fake and to be able to work with these people and pretending to be nice. Is this leadership then? Yes, but not the style I want to use. I don't think I have ever put on any aires on my support staffs. In the first place, I didn't even choose to create enemity with them. I truly respect them for the hardwork and effort they put in, even when they don't, have I ever made their lives difficult?
I agree that a good leader must learn to be humble and carry out servantship at times but certainly not to the situation where I must bow to listen to them and do what they want. I am not one who likes to pull rank. I can but I also know the detriment of doing so. Please open your eyes and ears to see and hear the real thing.
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Car Wash
How many of you had tried washing cars before? Well, I didn't really washed well before till I had my own car. And to wash off a car filled with droppings without the jet spray is the worse thing.
I had to run errand this morning but to my horror was that the droppings were splattered across my windscreen. No, I was not prepared to use my wiper to clean them all away. Neither was I willing to drive around to complete my errands in that "design". I recall that the petrol kiosk outside my estate has car wash and decided to pop in there before getting anywhere else.
As I drove near the washing bay, I saw a sign that mentions about 'Money Back Guarantee' if the wash is not clean because the cars are washed by people from MINDS. I hesistated for a few seconds and thought maybe I'll just give it a try. I have to give them the benefit of doubt.
While I was driving in, thoughts begin to run if the wash is going to be worth it, would the people know to use the right piece of sponge and if my car would be scratched. Yes, you can say that I was stereotyping on these people on their ability to clean my car well.
I drove into the washing bay with the cleaners staring in at me, as though they could feel my doubt. I felt bad somewhat at that point of time thinking that I should not see them through my own "filter mind".
At the final rinse with the spray jet, I must admit that I have never been to any car wash that really makes it a point to clean the car well after being soaped. It was at least 1.5 times longer than the usual rinsing time. I knew then for sure that my car has been well washed.
I drove to the drying bay and could not resist in coming out to see the cleanliness state. Really, I felt so guilty about doubting their abilities at the beginning. I gave a big smile and thank each of those who wiped my car dry.
It may not have been a perfect dry state that most car washes would give but I am more than happy at the attitude they have all displayed. I believe that many in the society shares the perspective as I had when we think about what the intellectual handicapped people could do. Our judgemental thoughts certainly didn't give these a people a chance to prove themselves of their worths. They may not be able to do a 100% of what we expect. Nevertheless, they aim to reach it and it isn't far off from what we want actually.
This encounter of social entrepreneurship has made me thought differently about them. And yes, I will go back there for future washes.
*In case you can't read off the picture, the message on the glass says, "Your bubbly and sparkling car wash goes a long way."
I had to run errand this morning but to my horror was that the droppings were splattered across my windscreen. No, I was not prepared to use my wiper to clean them all away. Neither was I willing to drive around to complete my errands in that "design". I recall that the petrol kiosk outside my estate has car wash and decided to pop in there before getting anywhere else.
As I drove near the washing bay, I saw a sign that mentions about 'Money Back Guarantee' if the wash is not clean because the cars are washed by people from MINDS. I hesistated for a few seconds and thought maybe I'll just give it a try. I have to give them the benefit of doubt.
While I was driving in, thoughts begin to run if the wash is going to be worth it, would the people know to use the right piece of sponge and if my car would be scratched. Yes, you can say that I was stereotyping on these people on their ability to clean my car well.
I drove into the washing bay with the cleaners staring in at me, as though they could feel my doubt. I felt bad somewhat at that point of time thinking that I should not see them through my own "filter mind".
At the final rinse with the spray jet, I must admit that I have never been to any car wash that really makes it a point to clean the car well after being soaped. It was at least 1.5 times longer than the usual rinsing time. I knew then for sure that my car has been well washed.
I drove to the drying bay and could not resist in coming out to see the cleanliness state. Really, I felt so guilty about doubting their abilities at the beginning. I gave a big smile and thank each of those who wiped my car dry.
It may not have been a perfect dry state that most car washes would give but I am more than happy at the attitude they have all displayed. I believe that many in the society shares the perspective as I had when we think about what the intellectual handicapped people could do. Our judgemental thoughts certainly didn't give these a people a chance to prove themselves of their worths. They may not be able to do a 100% of what we expect. Nevertheless, they aim to reach it and it isn't far off from what we want actually.
This encounter of social entrepreneurship has made me thought differently about them. And yes, I will go back there for future washes.
*In case you can't read off the picture, the message on the glass says, "Your bubbly and sparkling car wash goes a long way."
Monday, June 29, 2009
In-Conversation
My little nephew is sooooo cute. Though only 3 years old and short of two front teeth, he is beginning to speak more and cheekily. Below are some examples of conversation that I had with him recently.
Nephew: You are sitting on my chair!
Me: (Lying across a big sofa couch) No, I'm not sitting. I'm lying on the chair!
Nephew: (not understanding my statement) NO, you are sitting on my chair!
Me: No, I'm lying on the chair.
Nephew (Still cannot accept what I said and getting impatient) No, you are sitting on my chair!
Me: No, I'm lying on the chair. See, there's space on the chair, you can still sit here. Your backside is not that big (pointing to the remaining space enough for his little butt to sit).
Nephew: hahahahaha... no.... (and he walks away)
Nephew: I'm going downstairs.
Me: Are you going to my house?
Nephew: No, I'm going to downstairs, Ye Ye's house.
Me: Oh, that's my house.
Nephew: No, it's Ye Ye's house
Me: yes, I stay there.
Nephew: No
Me: Do you know who am I?
Niece: Gu Gu
Nephew: (standing there unknowingly what to say)
Me: Do you know who is my Gor Gor?
Niece: I know! It's Daddy!
Nephew: No, he's my Daddy!
Me: He's my Gor Gor
Nephew: No, my Daddy!
Me: You bully me I will tell my Gor Gor.
Nephew: No, he is my Daddy!
Nephew: You are sitting on my chair!
Me: (Lying across a big sofa couch) No, I'm not sitting. I'm lying on the chair!
Nephew: (not understanding my statement) NO, you are sitting on my chair!
Me: No, I'm lying on the chair.
Nephew (Still cannot accept what I said and getting impatient) No, you are sitting on my chair!
Me: No, I'm lying on the chair. See, there's space on the chair, you can still sit here. Your backside is not that big (pointing to the remaining space enough for his little butt to sit).
Nephew: hahahahaha... no.... (and he walks away)
Nephew: I'm going downstairs.
Me: Are you going to my house?
Nephew: No, I'm going to downstairs, Ye Ye's house.
Me: Oh, that's my house.
Nephew: No, it's Ye Ye's house
Me: yes, I stay there.
Nephew: No
Me: Do you know who am I?
Niece: Gu Gu
Nephew: (standing there unknowingly what to say)
Me: Do you know who is my Gor Gor?
Niece: I know! It's Daddy!
Nephew: No, he's my Daddy!
Me: He's my Gor Gor
Nephew: No, my Daddy!
Me: You bully me I will tell my Gor Gor.
Nephew: No, he is my Daddy!
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
The Wall In Front
I can almost hit it now... anytime soon. So much has happened at office and work is loading. Thanks to all the talks about being friends. And what friendship at work has caused? More work.
I'm sure I don't lack any graces from Him but I just feel that something is missing. Heard the song below in mandarin mass on Sunday. It's an awesome song. Holy Spirit is like a supplement that helps to boost our immunity against whatever viral attack that we may face on our spiritual self. Need Holy Spirit to move me on.
Come Holy Spirit (City Harvest Church)
Come holy spirit fall on me now
I need your anointing
Come in your power
I love you holy spirit
You're captivating my soul
And every day i grow to love you more
I'm reaching for your heart
You hold my life in your hand
Drawing me closer to you
I feel your power renew
Nothing compares to this place
Where i can see you face to face
I'm sure I don't lack any graces from Him but I just feel that something is missing. Heard the song below in mandarin mass on Sunday. It's an awesome song. Holy Spirit is like a supplement that helps to boost our immunity against whatever viral attack that we may face on our spiritual self. Need Holy Spirit to move me on.
Come Holy Spirit (City Harvest Church)
Come holy spirit fall on me now
I need your anointing
Come in your power
I love you holy spirit
You're captivating my soul
And every day i grow to love you more
I'm reaching for your heart
You hold my life in your hand
Drawing me closer to you
I feel your power renew
Nothing compares to this place
Where i can see you face to face
Sunday, June 21, 2009
A Great Time
Weekend came and it's almost over. In 2 days, I met up with different groups of people and caught up quite a bit.
First, Saturday early morning appointment was made with 2 adventurous persons to go hunt for durians. Well, erm, I overslept...hahaha... got my fair share of being suaned when I eventually got to the meeting place, not too late though. We couldn't find any, rather, we didn't know where to really find them but we saw people walked past us with bags full. Then we decided to explore a bit and ahah! Hee... next time we know. It was good fun and some camaderie which usually would not have over dinners.
Then was work... nothing exciting.
In the evening, met up with cousins with the intention of welcoming our third youngest one back from his overseas studies. We sat and listened to the interesting stories of what Americans youth do and some of the funny things that he did. As usual, such gatherings isn't short of teases and jokes on each other. Exchanging infos about our parents just like how they would sit down last time and even now to share about us among them. Haha...
A reminensence of what we cousins did when we were still kids at my grandma's old house. Time flew so fast that what seemed like yesterday were things that happened more than 20 years ago. When we could not see eye to eye during our individual youth growth to today where some of us are married and laughing over those juvenilility of ours.
We may not meet often but surely enough for us to realise and appreciate each others' presence in our growing up years.
This morning, I managed to wake up early for mass and then hopped on to climb with a few friends/colleagues before some work responsibilities again. It's been almost 5 months since I last climbed. Didn't do much routes but was a good start somewhere. Knee was surprisingly manageable, probably because I taped it.
It may not have to be an expensive gathering, simple meets like these helps to relieve the stress from work quite a bit. If only weekend is longer. Am certainly looking forward to more of such work-life-balance activities.
First, Saturday early morning appointment was made with 2 adventurous persons to go hunt for durians. Well, erm, I overslept...hahaha... got my fair share of being suaned when I eventually got to the meeting place, not too late though. We couldn't find any, rather, we didn't know where to really find them but we saw people walked past us with bags full. Then we decided to explore a bit and ahah! Hee... next time we know. It was good fun and some camaderie which usually would not have over dinners.
Then was work... nothing exciting.
In the evening, met up with cousins with the intention of welcoming our third youngest one back from his overseas studies. We sat and listened to the interesting stories of what Americans youth do and some of the funny things that he did. As usual, such gatherings isn't short of teases and jokes on each other. Exchanging infos about our parents just like how they would sit down last time and even now to share about us among them. Haha...
A reminensence of what we cousins did when we were still kids at my grandma's old house. Time flew so fast that what seemed like yesterday were things that happened more than 20 years ago. When we could not see eye to eye during our individual youth growth to today where some of us are married and laughing over those juvenilility of ours.
We may not meet often but surely enough for us to realise and appreciate each others' presence in our growing up years.
This morning, I managed to wake up early for mass and then hopped on to climb with a few friends/colleagues before some work responsibilities again. It's been almost 5 months since I last climbed. Didn't do much routes but was a good start somewhere. Knee was surprisingly manageable, probably because I taped it.
It may not have to be an expensive gathering, simple meets like these helps to relieve the stress from work quite a bit. If only weekend is longer. Am certainly looking forward to more of such work-life-balance activities.
Sunday, June 14, 2009
I use my brains equally
This is the result from a FB test.
Right brain individual: Right brain individuals are intuitive, creative and imaginative. They are flexible and are concerned with the bigger picture rather than details. They are impulsive and spontaneous and do not like time limits. They have difficulty explaining ideas verbally and prefer illustrations to verbal instructions. Careers: Architects, Artists, Salespeople, Psychiatrists, Musicians, Politicians, Teachers. (Interpersonal, Emotional, Musical, Spiritual, Talker.) Left brain individuals are analytical, articulate and to the point. They like identifying details and are more logical than intuitive. Left brained people have good communication and persuasion skills. Careers: Engineers, Systems Analysts, Technicians, Accountants, Librarians. (Administration, Conservative, Organization, Planner, Structure.)
Balanced.
Right brain individual: Right brain individuals are intuitive, creative and imaginative. They are flexible and are concerned with the bigger picture rather than details. They are impulsive and spontaneous and do not like time limits. They have difficulty explaining ideas verbally and prefer illustrations to verbal instructions. Careers: Architects, Artists, Salespeople, Psychiatrists, Musicians, Politicians, Teachers. (Interpersonal, Emotional, Musical, Spiritual, Talker.) Left brain individuals are analytical, articulate and to the point. They like identifying details and are more logical than intuitive. Left brained people have good communication and persuasion skills. Careers: Engineers, Systems Analysts, Technicians, Accountants, Librarians. (Administration, Conservative, Organization, Planner, Structure.)
Balanced.
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